About a month ago I was asked the following question in a comment to one of my posts on LinkedIn:
Do you think self-esteem comes with age and experiences in life or are some people naturally born with it?
Well, we are certainly born with it. Have you ever seen two-year-olds playing, do they look as though they have a strong sense of self? Of course they do!
Can it be added to through life? It may be possible, but I can’t think of any examples.
Self-esteem will change with age and experience, influenced by the beliefs we accumulate, but rarely for the better. But what if True-Self-Esteem isn’t about accumulating, but unlearning? True-Self-Esteem emerges from shedding false beliefs.
Life experiences can shape our self-perception, often leading to low self-esteem. True-Self-Esteem begins by examining and unlearning the negative beliefs we hold about ourselves. Often deeply ingrained and unnoticed, these beliefs stem from comparisons, societal pressures, and past failures. They’re not truths but distorted perceptions.
Unlearning is a gradual process involving self-compassion, self-acceptance, and questioning the validity of these beliefs. It’s also about embracing vulnerability and recognizing that our worth isn’t tied to external validation.
Cultivating True-Self-Esteem requires self-care, setting boundaries, and nurturing mental and emotional well-being. Seeking support and guidance is essential in this journey.
In conclusion, while age and experience can impact self-esteem, True-Self-Esteem emerges from unlearning false beliefs. By shedding negativity and embracing our true selves, we can cultivate authentic, resilient Self-Esteem.
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